How to defend my home?

Hey everyone, I live in a rough neighborhood and have been considering getting a home defense weapon, but I could use some advice. I have some experience with rifles in simulated combat (though I’ve never been in real combat) and with pistols at the range.

I also have a 7-month-old baby and a large dog who sleeps in a crate at night but is great at alerting us. My husband works night shifts about 9 times a month.

What would be the best choice for a home defense weapon? Also, how can I securely store it so I can access it quickly if needed, but keep it out of reach as my child starts walking, though she’s not old enough to learn gun safety yet?

I do plan on teaching her about firearm safety when she’s older, but trying to teach a 9-12 month old seems impossible, like herding cats.

I would prioritize securing your home over getting a firearm. Owning a firearm comes with significant responsibility and, in my view, requires a high level of proficiency, especially if you’re using it for defense in a household with a child.

Ensure your home has strong locks on doors and windows, and use them consistently. This is your house, and there’s no reason to allow anyone in uninvited. Install longer screws in hinges and door frames, as others often recommend, and consider motion-detecting outdoor lights. A simple sign that says “dog on premises” can be effective without being overly aggressive.

When it comes to firearms, you have handguns and long guns (rifles and shotguns). Rifles are more effective than handguns in a fight, but they require two hands, are heavier, and need more secure storage, especially with children around. Handguns, though less powerful and harder to use, are more maneuverable, easier to store, and can be used with one hand, allowing you to hold a baby or call for help.

Shotguns can be great but aren’t ideal for new shooters or those just looking to check a box for home defense. A lot of what people believe about shotguns is based on myths. At close range, the shot spread is small, so you still need to aim carefully, and if it’s a pump-action, you need to manually chamber each round. Ammo selection is crucial, and training with shotguns is less common than with handguns or rifles. Plus, ammo can be expensive and hard to find.

Handguns, while versatile, require a lot of practice to master. When I got my first handgun, I thought it would be sufficient for defense, but after years of regular practice and classes, I realized how much more there is to learn, especially under stress. Being proficient with a gun is a major time commitment, and safety needs to become second nature, especially in life-or-death situations.

If all of this seems overwhelming, focus on reinforcing your home’s security and consider getting pepper spray for personal and home defense.

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This is all excellent advice. Harden your house so it’s not a target to thieves in the first place. As far as firearms, at the end of the day YOU are the weapon. A firearm is a tool. You need to know how to use it.

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Find the safe first, gun second.

Also, get training. There’s no substitute for the real thing.

I prefer an AR, but most guns will work fine.

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Move to better area, which is probably easier said than done.

Otherwise, Upgrade to longer screws for the deadbolt if it hasn’t been done.

For nighttime, prefer firearm that can have a light mounted. Pistols easy to grab and go at night, especially if you’re being woken from a deep sleep

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U can always bring your kid into the range and teach Him/her to shoot

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Once she’s older. I do have plans to teach her firearm safety and how to use weapons. At 7months, I’m still teaching her how to eat solid foods. So I think we’re a ways off from that

Make your home as unappealing as possible to potential intruders. I keep a gun for protection, but the more measures I can take to avoid needing it, the better. Install a home security alarm (or at least put up a fake sign), and consider cameras as well. As someone suggested, use a more secure deadbolt. I also have extra door stops that screw into the frame to secure the door if the handle or deadbolt fails (note that these can only be locked from the inside, but they can still be broken through by emergency services or intruders, though they would create a lot of noise and likely wake you). Motion lights are also very effective. Since I work nights away from home, these measures are primarily for my wife.

For firearm safety, use a good pistol with a light that’s always secured away from your child. I carry a concealed weapon with one in the chamber, but the gun in my nightstand is not chambered to prevent any accidents. Despite monitoring, I want to avoid any risk of my kids accessing a loaded pistol, as my 4-year-old knows how to pull a trigger. Talking to kids about gun safety isn’t always enough; they’re naturally curious. With the precautions I’ve taken and our two dogs sleeping in our room, I should have enough warning to chamber a round if needed. If not, then that’s how it is. The risk of an intruder is far less concerning than the risk of my child getting hold of a loaded gun.

Just sharing my thoughts.

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S&W 380 EZ pistol (or the 9mm version). It’s easy rack, easy shooter, low recoil with thumb and grip safety. Add a Streamlight 7A pistol light then you’ve got a nice combo for around $500.

It’s 8 rd, but easier to swap mag if only 7 rd in the magazine.

Easy to conceal pistol behind your back (if have to check/answer the door) over a rifle.

I gave my mom the mentioned combo, and it’s her new precious.

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They make biometric gun safes that are apparently very quick access and can be mounted next to the bed or anywhere you might want. I don’t have kids and don’t lock up my home defense guns so I haven’t really looked into them and cant offer a recommendation but that sounds like your best bet.

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Keep it on you or within reach when you’re awake and home, in a safe when you aren’t home (or on you if you make your HD and carry gun the same) and in your nightstand or under your pillow when you’re asleep

I would personally recommend any full size handgun with double digit capacity, Glock would be a popular choice. You could get a G19 and carry it as well as have it for HD by using larger capacity mags at home or even a Roni kit if you want

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