I have to relocate soon due to military orders, but my wife is staying in our current state to finish her Master’s degree. She’ll be living alone on the second floor of a two-story house, and we were going over some emergency plans if anyone ever tried to break in. We didn’t agree on some points, so I thought I’d get some opinions here.
Her idea is to use a door stopper to brace her bedroom door, then use a fire escape ladder out the window to get down. I feel like this is risky because it would take time, and I’m not convinced the door stopper will hold up if someone tries to force their way in, especially since it’s on carpet.
I suggested she lock the door and, if needed, just get out the window and onto the slanted roof, then lower herself to the ground instead of using the ladder. She thinks my idea is dangerous and could lead to an injury.
Any advice on safer or quicker options? Or tips for things that might make her feel more secure?
I’d have her stay in a secure spot like behind a bed or heavy furniture and call 911 with it on speaker. Announce loudly that she’s armed and will shoot if anyone tries to enter. Having her escape onto a roof sounds like a last resort.
Look into getting a Flip Lock device; it’s great against forced entry. The ladder is good for emergencies like a fire. Cameras and lights around the place could also help. Mace gel is handy too because it won’t blow back on her.
I’ve lived alone in different places for years, and honestly, with solid locks and maybe a camera, I feel safe. Awareness of her surroundings and some basic security should be enough.
Start with a good, solid door. Those cheap interior doors won’t hold up at all. The ladder isn’t a bad idea, especially in case of a fire, but I agree it might take too long in an emergency.
If drilling is possible, look into a Nightlock Barricade—it’s quick and sturdy. Test any escape plans with her to make sure she feels comfortable. And if she’s open to it, firearms training could be valuable.
Those door brace bars are pretty weak unless they’re secured against something solid. As for the window escape, if it’s prepared right, a rope or escape ladder could work. Also, a loud alarm system can be a huge deterrent. But is she open to having a self-defense tool like a firearm?
Have you tried requesting to extend your orders? Depending on your job, it might be possible to delay your move if your wife’s degree is the main reason for staying behind.