I’m thinking of buying a gun for self-defense but have a history of suicidal thoughts. I’m worried that having a handgun could lead to me shooting myself eventually. Is there any kind of rifle or handgun that would be safer but still work for self-defense as a beginner?
I don’t want to hurt myself now, but when the thoughts hit, nothing seems to stop me. The only reason I haven’t is that killing myself is harder than it seems, or maybe I’m just bad at it… or maybe it’s like some kind of punishment. But I’m still here.
A firearm is not a good option for you. If your thoughts and actions are documented, you might not even pass the background check. You could look into something like pepper spray instead.
And to answer your question, no, there’s no gun designed to stop you from hurting yourself.
@Patrice
Each time it’s been voluntary. I’m suicidal, but I’m smart enough not to answer questions in a way that would get me involuntarily committed. I think I’ll pass the background check.
Also, tough friends? In my generation, I’m literally the toughest person I know. I’m saying that as a woman who’s always had to stand up for myself. Everyone else seems weak now. No one’s ever come to my defense, which is part of the reason I’m suicidal, but I don’t want to go into all of that here. Maybe it’s just the effects of American individualism.
@Xan
I understand what you’re saying, but what you just shared shows some real concerns. From my experience with shooting training and working with others, we always keep an eye out for people who might act impulsively. People who are ‘excited’ or emotional can be prone to making mistakes or acting rashly.
If you do decide to own a gun, I really suggest going through some serious training. In states with constitutional carry, many people take just the basic concealed carry class, but I’d encourage you to go beyond that. Look for local courses, especially intermediate ones.
A $200-300 training investment could give you a better understanding. A small safe for your gun will run about $100, and a decent pistol might cost $500-700.
You could become a responsible, trained firearm owner for under $1000, and it’s important to be cautious and aware. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask. I’m familiar with firearms and can point you to good resources.
Just be careful with everything. Self-defense is a right, but learning responsibility is part of that too.
Kase said:
You might not even be allowed to own a firearm based on your situation.
Even if that’s not the case, it’s not a good idea to own a gun if your suicidal thoughts are still unresolved.
Even if things seem better, you should be really careful. Always have a plan and someone you trust who can take control of your firearms if things get tough.
First of all, stay here. I don’t know you personally, but I want you to live.
Second, please, get therapy, not a gun. It’s like an alcoholic wanting to keep alcohol in the house. You need help for your mind, not a weapon.
If you’re really concerned about defense, maybe think about a non-lethal weapon. Your mind might be playing tricks on you, making you worry about things that aren’t there.
Take care of yourself and stay with us. We care about you.
That’s really unsettling, and it’s understandable that you’re concerned. Trust your instincts and talk to your neighbors if you feel like something’s off. Keep an eye out for anything unusual, and don’t hesitate to reach out if you feel worried.
It seems like you’ve thought about this deeply. But please, don’t go through with buying a gun. You deserve help and support, not to put yourself in a situation where it could end badly. Stay safe.
